When Eva was thinking about starting therapy, the first thing she thought to do was Google "therapy sf." The search results were spotty at best. Outside of an excellent article in the Bold Italic, Eva didn't really know what to look for. Of course, she'd heard of terms like depression and anxiety, but she didn't really know [...]
The latest research shows that women are staying single longer. Of course, we can't deny all of the amazing things that go along with being single. Things like: Freedom from stereotypical gender responsibilities in the home The joy of coming and going, answering to no one but yourself A cornucopia of adventurous sexual liaisons The ability to [...]
The term “Emotional IQ” is all the rage in tech these days. Wikipedia offers a quick and dirty definition of Emotional Intelligence: “Emotional intelligence (EI) or emotional quotient (EQ) is the capacity of individuals to recognize their own, and other people's emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional [...]
(This article first appeared in Psychology Today) Though upward mobility represents the epitome of the American Dream, research shows that professional success has high costs on the emotional and psychological well-being of those who come from underprivileged backgrounds. As a biracial psychotherapist in San Francisco, I am no stranger to witnessing the psychological and emotional [...]
This article comes from a short Ask A Shrink Series that I did for SF Weekly. If you'd like to read more like this, check it out Here. Ask a Shrink: When "Too Nice" Goes Wrong The following comes to us from a person who describes herself as a "mid-20s, woman of color." I just quit [...]
There are moments when our romantic relationship takes a surreal turn. For Topher,* it was the moment when he opened his laptop and discovered that Dan, his partner of over 7 years, had been cheating on him. “We’d always talked about how we were disgusted by people who cheated,” Topher told me, still baffled by [...]
If you were to meet me at a party, you might describe me as rambunctious, animated and a little irreverent. I like my coffee black and I like my humor crass. So, it may surprise you to know that once I don my therapist scarf (or fingerless gloves, as may be the case), I tend [...]
“I don’t think I would… No. Sometimes, I do.” Olivia,* was silent for a long moment. It hung between us, this silence. Then, finally, “If I could wave a magic wand and make this all go away, I would.” Were she talking about kidney stones, or credit card debt, we would all nod along, reassured [...]
Great question! Maybe you keep dating guys who jerk you around. Maybe you date ladies who get mad at you because you don't want to commit. Maybe you're in a relationship, but you feel constantly disappointed by your partner. Shoot, maybe you feel like you're constantly disappointing your partner! Whatever your relationship troubles, chances are [...]
Then you're in the right place! One of the great things about psychoanalytically-oriented psychotherapy is that it works for the you who is in transition, who hasn't quite figured out what your dream life would look like. It can be quite frustrating to be saturated in the self-help market which promises to give you the [...]
You heard the hype. Once you had the job of your dreams, the love of your life, the car, the apartment in the city, the membership at The Battery, you would finally feel HAPPY! Only you don't. With every new achievement comes a new set of difficulties. Those things you thought would be fixed - [...]
